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Examining your responses.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s look more closely at those impatient responses. Many people when they come for help will say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to get better,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just want to be alright,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just want to be my old self again,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to live a normal life,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just want to be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\nhttps:\/\/therapyforanxiety.org\/be-precise-about-your-fears\/\n<\/div>
Be precise about your fears<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n


This is all perfectly understandable, but recovery doesn\u2019t come from aiming at this sort of goal. Remember, goals have to be SMART.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to get better \u2013 this is too vague. Your goal must be Specific.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just want to be alright \u2013 can you define \u2018alright\u2019? \u2018Alright\u2019 isn\u2019t Measurable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just want to be my old self again \u2013 this is not Achievable, because every experience changes you, and so you will always be a different person from the one who fell into the black hole of Anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to live a normal life \u2013 is this truly Relevant? Wouldn\u2019t it be better to live the life that\u2019s right for you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just want to be happy \u2013 achieving happiness isn\u2019t Timeable. It can happen in an instant,<\/a> or it can take years.
Instead you need to look for concrete, specific goals such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to get back to work,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to have a relationship,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to travel abroad,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want to go back to college.
Use your notebook to write down specific long-term goals for you. Don\u2019t let yourself become upset at the thought of how far off they seem. Instead, use the goals as your motivator. One day you will achieve them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Examining your responses. Let\u2019s look more closely at those impatient responses. 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